The Garden of Hedon

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Despite my claim to being a Hedonist, I sometimes can't help but do things the hard way. It could be argued that the hard way is a form of pleasure, but my motivations are usually taking the hard way to provide a pleasurable outcome. In other words, the ends justify the means. When it comes to the ongoing search for sexual nirvana, I'm fairly particular in my "ends". I want to feel good physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually (Yes, I am an atheist and I use the word "spiritually" as a catch all for any metaphysical realm of existence not covered under physical, emotional, and mental.)  I want to feel good, I want the people I have sex with to feel good, and I want all involved participants to not be saddled with guilt, shame, worry, or any other negative baggage that people can carry around sex. I married my wife almost a decade ago, and before we got married I committed the worst marital sin a person can commit....I was dishonest with myself...

The past few weeks we have seen two notable examples of good old fashioned white guy racism;  Cliven Bundy  and  Don Sterling Now in the case of Cliven Bundy, he's an old rancher out in the desert who has probably had very little social contact with people of color, so it's easy to see why he could be so clueless. But Don Sterling, having grown up in Los Angeles and owning a major sports team that has a lot of people of color who are making him richer, he should know better. These two clowns have been the most notable in the media lately, but racism still permeates and persists in our society at all levels. I think that racism is one of the many "isms" that is keeping this country from living up to it's potential. This is supposed to be the land of equal opportunity, where everyone is an equal citizen, regardless of race, gender, ethnicity, or sexual orientation. I believe that a person's skin color does not equal the value of them as a human being. All ra...

There is a new dating website in town, and its made specifically for the polyamory community, called Kotango! . For a long time I have been on okcupid , which is a free dating site that seems to have a few poly people on there, but the vast majority are heterosexual monogamously minded folks so you have to spend a lot of time sifting through the profiles looking for people who practice or are open to polyamory. Kotango is all poly people, and done in a classy, safe for work viewing mainstream sort of way. If you are on there, you can find my profile as Happy Hedonic. Say hi! Update 2017: Kotango went belly up a long time ago. Sorry to see it go. I'm sorry to see that the website didm;t work out, for what ever reason.

I grew up listening to the Beatles. I still listen to them today, and sometimes when I listen to a track that I haven't heard in a long time it sounds fresh, almost like hearing it for the first time. Which is pretty neat considering that I've heard every one of their songs so many times that I can sing along with most of them. So I'm searching the catalog of my library and I find this album: Love (The Beatles) It's a remixing of different Beatles song together to make "new" songs, like taking the guitar riff from one song and mixing it with the vocals from another, while using the drum tracks from another song. It was done technically very well by George Martin and his son, Giles Martin. I get what they were doing....creating new soundscapes from familiar tunes....but I just couldn't get into it. It's not that I feel that the original Beatles songs were perfect and therefore untouchable, but pretty damn good as they were and remixin...

I got this from a "Best of Craigslist". It was written from a woman's point of view but it applies to men who enjoy receiving anal sex as well. Like me. I would gladly credit the author if I could but it was posted anonymously.   Anal? You want anal? Well, have you heard of........   .............the "ass fuck conspiracy?" You haven't, eh? Well, I probably should not do this, but I will -- I will share the secrets of the little-known ass fuck conspiracy. But only if you promise to use it only for the greater good (aka: pleasure). (Note: there are basics of this plan -- lube, limits, pacing, etc. -- that are well-known, oft-talked about, and are part of any successful sexual interlude which will not be specifically covered here, but DO keep them in mind.) Overview: Lighten up, no matter how pressing your desire for ass fucking may be. Talking, pressuring or coercing your girl into anal isn't effective. Tricking or forcing her into it is out ...

  Welcome to the Garden of Hedon(ism)! I have absolutely no idea what I am doing here with this. I don't even know  why  I am doing this other than that I have things on my mind and everyone else seems to have a blog nowadays so I figure I'd better get with the program.  Let me first start by pointing out that I am not a literary type. I have no English degree, I hardly ever read books, and I dropped out of high school as a matter of fact. What I do is write like I speak, sometimes going back and rewriting after I've read my work and thought that I could say it better.   Secondly, this blog will contain words, pictures, videos, ideas, and themes that are adult, offensive, and graphic in nature. If you are under 18 years of age, leave now. If you don't like what I write, leave now. If you don't like porn, leave now....it's going to get very nasty in here later. Who am I? I call myself Happy Hedonic. I am generally pretty happy in life and...