The Garden of Hedon

I came across this TEDtalk on Youtube and found it very interesting https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OqUaEJLfrLo Speaker Theo E.J. Wilson points out something that I have felt for a long time, that a lot of the problems we have today in the US are a result of decades of poor education. We have a whole population that doesn't know it's history, doesn't know how to research facts, doesn't know how to critically think, and gets it's information packaged and propagandized to them from select filtered sources.

The other day while I was on my back with my legs in the air with Sir fucking my ass, I had some thoughts going through my mind, which sometimes happens while I am in certain stages of anal sex. At many stages of sex my thinking is narrowly focused on how I am feeling, the visual aesthetics of the scene I am in, pleasing my partner(s), etc, but sometimes there are certain stages of the mind/body/sex experience where my mind goes off into more circumspect realms and I think about things that I normally wouldn't or couldn't when I'm in the throes of ecstasy. It was just me and Sir, two guys enjoying anal sex. Sir was pounding my ass and saying things to me about how he wants to get another guy with us to fuck me as well. The thought of this was turning me on, not just the idea of bottoming for another guy and enjoying an abundance of sex but the turn-on was the BDSM aspect of having my Master "give" me to another guy to serve as his fucktoy. It lit off a flame of...

Another weekend with my tribe. Another first in my sexual life.  I showed up early enough for Sir and Sub and myself to have another mind blowing BDSM threesome, followed by some clean up, snacks, and heading out the door for a trip to San Francisco for a class on BDSM dungeon etiquette held in a public dungeon, the  SFCitadel . The class started off with our hosts introducing themselves, what their name on Fetlife  is, what they identified as, their experience in the community, etc, and then asked everyone in the room to go one by one and introduce themselves, what they identified as, what their level of experience was, and why were they there. There was quite a diversity of people, sexual orientation, relationship styles going around the room. I estimate 30-40 people were there so it took a while to come around to me which gave me time to think about how I wanted to represent myself. "Hi, my name is ...., my name on Fetlife is Happy Hedonic, I am a bisexual...

Ah, to be a sub.....           I just recently spent a night and a day with my tribe of kinky perverted people, doing the things that kinky perverted people do. If you have read earlier posts to this blog then you know that I have had profound, life-changing experiences with my tribe. This time was no different. It just gets better and better each time we get together.   I've been away from my tribe for several months, moved to a rural isolated community for a job. With schedules being tight, and me being a 3 hour drive even further away than I was before, getting together with my tribe has been a challenge but the planets aligned and I was able to come down on a Friday night and stay until Saturday evening.  Unfortunately for us, one of our fellow sluts decided to leave the tribe to pursue other sexual interests, so we were one slut short of a foursome but our threesomes are pretty fucking awesome. I got there late in the evening after...

I can't speak for other men, but I can speak for myself (hence this blog).  Several years ago I was sitting around the campfire with some friends that I was not "out" to as poly, kinky, bisexual, etc. The discussion veered towards a more risqué nature and a friend of mine who is a lesbian asked aloud "Why do men like to see facials in porn?"  I wasn't able at the time to get into the discussion, so E, this is for you (and me). First, let's break it down. Ejaculation Orgasms feel good, make no mistake about that, but the icing on the cake of an orgasm is the feeling of cum working its way through my cock and shooting, spurting, and oozing out of the tip. There is something about the substance itself that has a tactile feeling that is special and intense. Seeing another man shooting his load gives me an empathic feeling of joy, knowing how good cum feels shooting out. I like the feeling of cum I really do. It has this neat feeling...

Polyamory, is usually not depicted in the media very favorably.... ....but I have discovered a new web based series drama showing on Youtube called "Compersion" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9rsCdxctICE So far we have Season 1 out, with 13 episodes. I heard about the show from one of my favorite podcasts " Polyamory Weekly " and got quickly hooked into it. The story follows a couple who explore polyamory, but not how it is usually portrayed from a white, upper-middle class, patriarchal perspective. This show has an all black cast, the wife is the one who brings it up and wants to try it, and the couple make all the usual mistakes that couples make when entering into polyamory without doing the research about it. The production values are good, with good actors, sound and lighting. This was not done by amateurs with a shaky hand camcorder. Check it out, let me know what you think.   

I got some, I like em. A lot of people nowadays have tattoos. I got my first one 30something years ago, added a few more over the years, but getting covered with large swaths of ink was not my thing. For myself and my body, just a few as accents.  As time went by, tattoos became more popular in society and more accepted for women to get tattoos.  When I was young and got mine there was no sexual connotation in my thinking. Tattoos were not erotic to me. But as I started to see more women with tattoos, my perspective started to change. What follows is my thoughts and feelings on tattoos on women. Tattoos on men will be the subject of another post in the future.  Tramp Stamps A tattoo across the lower back, usually centered right in the middle. I generally like these and have thought about getting one myself. Of course, on some women these can look bad, trashy, unflattering....I guess it depends on the body and design as to what turns me on, but this one look...