The Garden of Hedon

Much to my surprise, this blog has had over 1,200 page views....I never thought it would have gotten that much. I started it as a stream of consciousness expression of things I have on my mind. At the bottom of each posting is a link to leave a comment. I invite people to leave comments, ask questions, and to generally give feedback. 

The other day I was talking with Sir on the subject of jealousy, specifically the feelings involved with watching or knowing that your loved one is having sex with someone else. This is something that comes up a lot in polyamory. My lovely wife of ten years is asexual, towards me at any rate. She does not desire sex. She is affectionate, warm, loves to cuddle and be intimate, but she does not desire orgasms or any sexual act, at least with me. When we first opened our marriage five years ago, she did try out a relationship with a guy who lived in another part of the state several hours drive away. She went away for a four day weekend to spend some time with him. After she returned home we went for our usual afternoon walk and I asked her how things went. She said that she had a good time. I asked her if she had sex with him and she said that they did. I asked her if she enjoyed it and she said that she did. I asked if she was planning to see him again and she said yes, which I e...

We did it again..... The four of us got together for another awesome foursome session, this time things went even better than the last. Two weeks or so after our first foursome, we made plans to get together again, this time we had the benefit of discussing what worked for us and what didn't. It also worked out that while I was having to drive through some of what is considered to be one of the worst metro traffic areas of the country, I was off work early enough to grab a bite to eat and make it to Sub's house right on time. By the time I got there my meal was digested and I was ready to get to play.  After a little bit of casual chat Sir ordered us into action. Dutifully we obeyed. Sub commenting on how much she was enjoying herself that evening.  Sub has a Phd in cocksucking.  Scooter wanted to get dressed up for this session. Thats Sub burying her tongue in my ass while Sir was feeding his cock to me and Scooter. Notice the ...

I recently achieved a few long standing goals of mine all in one night, and it was one of the best experiences I have had in my life (so far). I had a BDSM bisexual foursome! It all started a few months ago when I was perusing the Craigslist personals on a rare whim. Most of the time I have done this I either don't find what I am looking for or something that sounds great is too far away geographically, so I never set my expectations high when looking at ads. Mostly I do it for amusement or the offhand chance that I might find that gem of the right fit for me. Well, this was the latter. I found an ad of a couple that sounded like a good fit for me and they listed specific criteria that was a close match for me. I answered the ad, heard back from the male half of the couple and we started corresponding back and forth, then met for a walk and chat. Sir is a Dom who is bisexual. He has a stocky build, nice eyes, killer smile, and a very nice grounded personality. His girlfriend ...

Here is a link to an interview with porn legend Nina Hartley. It's over an hour long and she discusses her career in porn, polyamory, swinging, BDSM, and her general philosophies on life, love, and sexuality.  I've always thought that she had beautifully shaped ass and the physical attraction has always been there, but this interview made me fall in love with her mind! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7zdMt40NzI

Ok, so all the sex talk is fun but I also have other important things to talk about. With the elections for president of the US coming up the national freak show also known as the Republican Party has their field of candidates spewing forth their dog whistles and propaganda to rally their base of racists, homophobes, xenophobes, anti-intellectuals, class elitists, and.......devoutly religious christians. Some of the clowns  candidates are trying to be more pious than the others, thinking that the religious base is their ticket to electabilty, and they are openly advocating turning the US into a theocracy (christian, of course). At times it seems to me that the US already is a theocracy, and that the majority of the country is devoutly religious. Polls show that something on the order of %80 of Americans identify as affiliated to a religion, although many of those might be affiliating themselves culturally or not wanting to "out" themselves as doubters, non-believers, ...

Well, a lot has happened since my last post..... I've met a wonderful woman through OKCupid who is new to yet very enthusiastic about polyamory. She is recently divorced after a long marriage, and now exploring a world that she feels she was meant to live in, yet never knew that it existed for her. I met S after a few emails back and forth at a coffee shop after work. A very attractive natural redhead, early 50's, killer smile and a twinkle in her eye. Our conversation flowed effortlessly, the vibe was easy and not coerced. We moved on to dinner at a Puerto Rican restaurant and shared more conversation and gleefully discovered our shared tastes in food (Black Beans! Plantains!). After dinner we were out on the street saying goodbye and starting to kiss and embrace, which turned into a make-out session on the street. Right from the get go S has been very eager to talk about polyamory and the other men in her life. R is a fellow that she particularly likes so much that ...