Welcome to the Garden of Hedon(ism)!
I have absolutely no idea what I am doing here with this. I don't even know why I am doing this other than that I have things on my mind and everyone else seems to have a blog nowadays so I figure I'd better get with the program.
Let me first start by pointing out that I am not a literary type. I have no English degree, I hardly ever read books, and I dropped out of high school as a matter of fact. What I do is write like I speak, sometimes going back and rewriting after I've read my work and thought that I could say it better.
Secondly, this blog will contain words, pictures, videos, ideas, and themes that are adult, offensive, and graphic in nature. If you are under 18 years of age, leave now. If you don't like what I write, leave now. If you don't like porn, leave now....it's going to get very nasty in here later.
I call myself Happy Hedonic. I am generally pretty happy in life and try to maintain a demeanor of optimism, although I do have my ups and downs. I have a hedonic mindset, that is to say, I gravitate towards doing things that are pleasurable. Also known as "Hedonism". Life is short, why dwell on the drudgery anyway? So lets get down to it. What do I find pleasurable?
Secondly, this blog will contain words, pictures, videos, ideas, and themes that are adult, offensive, and graphic in nature. If you are under 18 years of age, leave now. If you don't like what I write, leave now. If you don't like porn, leave now....it's going to get very nasty in here later.
Who am I?
I call myself Happy Hedonic. I am generally pretty happy in life and try to maintain a demeanor of optimism, although I do have my ups and downs. I have a hedonic mindset, that is to say, I gravitate towards doing things that are pleasurable. Also known as "Hedonism". Life is short, why dwell on the drudgery anyway? So lets get down to it. What do I find pleasurable?
SEX!
And who doesn't? While the vast majority of humanity loves sex, I have met a few people who don't seem to care for it all that much. I love it. No, I mean that I really really love it. It makes me feel good. I like the aesthetics of it, the feeling of an orgasm, making others feel good, the endorphins released in my brain afterwards, it's all good.
What am I?
Here are some labels that I will slap on myself: 50something, male, white, liberal, atheist, bisexual, polyamorous, slut, hedonist. Now let's break this down.
I know, I know. It's a cock shot. The tackiest form of exhibition that men do on the Internet. But I have an exhibitionist streak in me and this is the closest I will come to being a porn star. So if you are into this kind of thing, enjoy!
I was circumcised as a baby which was a common practice back in 1962 for many boys regardless of the religious faith of their parents. I think the idea was hygiene. Or maybe inhibiting masturbation (little good that would do to prevent me). Whatever the reason, from having grown up with a "cut" cock that is what I have found to be aesthetically pleasing to me. Foreskins always looked a little weird to me. Not a deal breaker, just a preference.
- It just makes sense. Humans are not evolved to love or fuck just one person and never think about anyone else. I am married to a woman who is not into sex as much as I am, and she is not a man so there is a certain dynamic that she cannot fulfill. We love each other very much and do share love and intimacy, but sexually we are on different wavelengths and we cannot satisfy each other. Everything else in our lives are great together, so why break up a good marriage over sex? We came to the logical conclusion to open up our marriage and have outside lovers. The situation is great; I have a girlfriend who is bisexual and polyamorous as well, and I can have sex/a relationship with anyone else that I want. I don't have to hide it from my wife and worry about getting caught, she is not suffering the hurt and anger, pain, or jealousy of a spouse cheating on her, and I get to be who I really am.
Some interesting links on the subject:
http://www.morethantwo.com
http://www.theinnbetween.net/poly1.html
http://polyweekly.com
Historically the term slut has been applied to women. I think that men can be sluts, too. I am.
But I see no shame in enjoying sex and wanting to do it as frequently as one would like
On being 50
- I was born in the year 1962. I have lived for over 50 years now. Some people think 50 is old, some people think 50 is young, but in my mind I feel young and my body is still in pretty good shape. Some days my joints are a little creaky and muscles a bit sore, but for the most part my body still functions just fine for me.On being male
- I was born with a penis. It has given me many many years of pleasure and convenient urination. I love it. I think it's beautiful. What do you think?I know, I know. It's a cock shot. The tackiest form of exhibition that men do on the Internet. But I have an exhibitionist streak in me and this is the closest I will come to being a porn star. So if you are into this kind of thing, enjoy!
I was circumcised as a baby which was a common practice back in 1962 for many boys regardless of the religious faith of their parents. I think the idea was hygiene. Or maybe inhibiting masturbation (little good that would do to prevent me). Whatever the reason, from having grown up with a "cut" cock that is what I have found to be aesthetically pleasing to me. Foreskins always looked a little weird to me. Not a deal breaker, just a preference.
On Being White
-Typical American of European descent; English-Scandanavian. No big deal. I think that all races are cool and deep down all people are the same. I grew up in the big city along with many other races of people, and I have seen how non-white people have been/are discriminated against. I say, fuck that shit. I have no tolerance for racism.On Being Liberal
- I believe that America and the World could be a better place if the conservatives and their Republican henchmen would shut the fuck up and die off from old age. There are only three reasons to vote for a Republican candidate: ignorance, stupidity, and corruption of the soul. If a person is ignorant, that just means that they are not aware of the facts and has made their choice in a vacuum of information. If a person is stupid, then they may lack the intellectual capacity for critical thinking and processing the facts into logical reason. If a person is corrupt in their soul, that means that they know the facts, can process the logic, yet still choose to vote Republican because their self-serving greed and/or hatred towards others.
On Being An Atheist
- I do not believe in the existence of a god. I do not believe that religions should have any influence over government or society. I advocate for a completely secular society.On Being Bisexual
- "I like the pole and the hole" - Jerri Blank. What can I say? I like women, I like men. It's not a 50/50 attraction for me, but rather a fluctuating desire. My bisexual friend, M, says that for her, "it's not the genitalia thats the deciding factor for me". I went through a period in my life where if I had a girlfriend I was not bisexual and I was only focused on heterosexual cis-gendered sex and porn viewing habits. Due to societal pressures and insecurities in myself, I tried to make the gay sex thing just a phase I went through out of sexual desperation. It was in my 30's that I had an epiphanic moment where I realized what and who I was.On Polyamory
Some interesting links on the subject:
http://www.morethantwo.com
http://www.theinnbetween.net/poly1.html
http://polyweekly.com
On Being a Slut
- I love sex. I love to fuck. I love pleasing others. I like to have sex with more than one person at a time. That makes me a slut and I embrace the term.Historically the term slut has been applied to women. I think that men can be sluts, too. I am.
On Being a Hedonist
- Life is tough and short. Why not do things that feel good? Back in the 70's the saying "Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll" was the saying that I latched onto. It still holds true today but must be applied judiciously or else it will cease to feel good or be a good thing. For examples:- Sex - should be done safely. Get tested for sexually transmitted infections, use protection, know your partners, know yours and their status, use lots of lube, use safe words, be emotionally grounded, etc.
- Drugs - all drugs have the potential for physiological damage to the body, some more than others. I have tried different drugs and had different experiences, most of them good. The key to enjoying drugs and mitigating their physical harm is moderation, and not doing the obviously bad ones, like opiates and amphetamines. Here is what I enjoy.
- Cannabis. I love pot. It relaxes my body, wakes up my mind, eases tension, releases the goofy sense of humor in me. I can't smoke it (or eat it) all the time because of work testing, but if I could indulge more often I would.
- Alcohol. I love the taste of good craft beer, red wine, or single malt scotch. I also enjoy the mild buzz after one or two glasses, but getting all out shit-faced drunk only makes me sleepy and then nauseous and hung over the next day. So moderation is the key there.
- Hallucinogens. When I was younger I dropped LSD, tripped on mushrooms, peyote and had wonderful life affirming experiences. I wouldn't know where to get that stuff these days but I would be open to doing them again only in well controlled settings with people I know and trust around, and others who are doing them with me at the same time. Hallucinogens are best done as a shared experience.
- Rock and Roll - music is the soundtrack of life. I grew up with what they call "Classic Rock" nowadays. I enjoy the Beatles, Rolling Stones, Jimi Hendrix, Led Zeppelin, etc. When the 80's rolled around a lot of the music changed into a style that I didn't identify with. New Wave, "Big Hair" Metal bands, Techno Synth Dance Music…meh.
Poly Party!
Last night I took my dear friend M with me to a party near Geyserville at a beautiful mountaintop home that was put on by some members of the Poly Support group of Sonoma County. I barely knew a couple of people there and M did not know anyone at all. The house was freakin incredible…surrounded by forest, huge rooms, hot tub. Our gracious host John gave us a tour and explained that the house was built 4 years ago by a Japanese architect. After eating some delicious potluck foods and drinking a little wine, our host informed us that the hot tub was ready for people to enjoy. I asked M if she wanted to get in and she was reluctant. I told her that I was going for it and she was enticed to join in. In short time we had 6 people relaxing under a starry sky and when the woman across the tub from me put her feet up I could not resist the urge to give her a foot massage. She moaned in pleasure as I kneaded her feet. After about an hour of pleasant conversation, star gazing, etc, the heat was getting to me and I had to get out of the tub. Back inside to nosh a little more, chat with folks, but then it was getting late, M and I were tired and we had an hour drive to get back to the house where we are staying.
Football
The 49s lost their big playoff game against the Seattle Seahawks yesterday and they lost. Sorry football fans, but I don't care. I mean, I really don't give a fuck about the team, the game, the whole entity of football. I have nothing against sports in general, but if the all football talk, people wearing jerseys, games on TV, etc were to disappear, my reaction would be "meh". Why even write about it if I don't care? Because it's in the news and people will eventually ask me how I feel about "my team" not making it into the Superbowl. I recently had an acquaintance visit my house while wearing a Seahawks cap. She said she wore it just to "rub it in". I told her that a) there is nothing to rub in because I don't care about any football team and b) why would you want to "rub" anything in? Is this how friends treat each other?
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